Therapy Today

( Show All In The Press Articles )

My first degree is a BA in marketing. I finally managed to do this in my 30s, while working for Sony. My boss saw promise in me and persuaded me to do it. I had no academic qualifications whatsoever. I spent most of my teenage years in institutions, where I became an expert and persistent absconder. My mother and I were physically abused on a regular basis by my late alcoholic stepfather and, as a result, my education was virtually nonexistent.

Download PDF version of article

Armed with my degree and a new self-belief, I embarked on what turned into a very successful career. I held positions right up to senior vice president level in large corporations, with global responsibility for marketing operations.

et, despite my business success, I felt there was always something missing in my life. I had nice cars and holidays, travelled the globe, but still I was not happy deep inside.

Then, in the late 90s, I read a book that was to change my life. It sparked my spiritual curiosity to such an extent that I booked a flight to the US to visit the author. Neale Donald Walshe is a charming man who has received great acclaim globally with his Conversation with God (CWG) books. Could he really have spoken with God? Why him, why was he so special? Why was this God not talking to me? Either he was a con man, a charlatan, or he had seen or heard something that I felt keen to see and hear myself. We met and as a result I hosted a small UK speaking tour for Neale and set up CWG UK.

Doing this made me realise that the part that was missing in me was spiritual and that I was unfulfilled as a human being. I was, in fact, pretending, and I had been for most of my life.

I struggled with this for a few years when my professional career was at its peak and finally relented when a girlfriend told me that I was socially void of empathy and that work was my mistress and it would probably kill me. I realised that she was right and that I had completely lost who I really am. I wept.

She recommended I go on the Hoffman programme, an eight-day intensive therapeutic approach for people seeking change in their lives. She herself had attended and felt that it might give me the incentive to change the way I was. Perhaps she saw something in me I was missing myself. During the eight days I experienced every emotion possible; I surrendered to the process. There I met a number of psychotherapists; one in particular impressed and inspired me. During a small group therapy session (my first experience of any sort of therapy), it was suggested that my true vocation might be as a therapist. For some reason this resonated deep inside and I researched what sort of therapist might suit my beliefs and values. I was then invited by the BBC to take part in a television series called The Big Silence, where I spent eight days in silence. This had a profound effect and effectively sealed my decision to become a psychotherapist.

I chose the Centre for Counselling and Psychotherapy Education (CCPE) and the transpersonal model because of its integrative and non-limiting qualities. The ability to draw on numerous approaches and modalities allowed me the freedom I wanted as a therapist. The non-religious spiritual aspect had also become increasingly important to me.

I knew that others like me were trapped in an ego constructed out of surviving and succeeding in the commercial world; that others had had poor starts in life and had seen their mothers abused and had been unable to protect them as children. These are my four reasons for becoming a therapist.

In my first year of training, typically competitive, I asked our tutor, ‘How do I become the best therapist in the world?’ His answer really woke me up to the change in life I had chosen. ‘Being a good enough therapist is all one can hope for.’ It is all I hope for.

Latest Blog Entries

You Are More Than You THINK!

We are only feeling our thoughts in the moment they happen... READ MORE

Has Soul Gone Out of Business?

To define the needs at the heart of many organisations initially we need look at the individual beliefs of the leaders... READ MORE

New Wisdom from Old Doctrines

I hear on the grapevine that my colleague and friend Professor Mark Williams at Oxford University has been discussing mindfulness politics... READ MORE

What The Point? You Are!

It's been a while since I've 'blogged' mainly because I have been so busy, I seem to have been working twice as hard just to stand... READ MORE